Let me start by saying that I LOVE my son. In my eyes he is the best thing that I have ever done, having JJ in my life and intertwining our lives forever was the second best.
Felix is now 2 years old, he runs and does everything at super speed. Gone are the days where we could sit in one spot and just nurse all day! I won't lie and tell you that the good old days were great and that I loved them because they came with their own brand of headaches but I do sometimes long for them...
I went to the park the other day with JJ and Felix in tow to try and connect with other Moms from the Sanctuary (the midwifery practice that we used when I was pregnant with Felix). The group at the park was the toddler group so I fully expected to find children Felix's age and was quite puzzled to find much younger children.
That is when I noticed that even with the few months difference between them, a two year old is way more demanding than a 14 month old. The little ones were only starting to walk and were still in the early stages of that crazy time of their short lives and here goes Felix whizzing by them at what must have seemed to the other Moms there like a million miles an hour!
Now I had expected a group where we could commiserate about the crazy things our kids had put us threw instead here I was hearing about what Junior likes to eat, clearly I was in the wrong place but I stayed and tried to chat with the other ladies but at the end of the day their reality and mine were a million miles apart.
So since I wasn't able to vent I am going to do it here.
Being a Mom SUCKS! I mean... it mostly rocks but some days I just want to lock myself in a room, any room (and yes the bathroom will do!) and just do something for me and only for me. Of late I find that my workout at the end of the day is my ONLY alone time. If I can be honest some days (and this is turning into most days of late) I just have no patience for bopping around and punching the air and pretending like I want to do my x seconds of plank or my HIIT class! I just want to take a nap! Yup! Hell I would settle for taking a poo uninterrupted!
My life right now consists of taking care of a child who constantly says "NO!!!" and "Mommy what's going on?" or "Mommy whatcha doing?", who thinks that doing the exact opposite of what is asked of him is his life's mission and who if left unchecked would spend most of his time out of time out and drawing all over the walls!
I love spending time with him but when napping becomes a daily battle and everything is challenged I just get really tired! (A kingdom for a nap!)
I don't drink coffee (or if I do it's decaf ) or liquor but at the rate things are going I think I am going to start on both!
Saturday, October 12, 2013
Tuesday, August 6, 2013
Playground BS!
I need some parenting advice. Let me start by saying that I have a 25 month old little boy who is very full of energy and who gets very vocal when he is surrounded by other people.
Today we went to the McDonald's across the street from us and while we were there he played in the play area.
Felix had a blast when he was there and while he wasn't always visible because he laughs really loudly I knew he was ok.
Now this one child came along who had to be 3 or 4 years old who wouldn't let Felix get down from the slide, I had no idea that that was going on as this was all the way at the top of the thing. So when Felix started yelling "Stop it!" several times to no avail and then wailing "Mommy!" I knew I had to get up there and figure out what was wrong. That little boy wouldn't let Felix down and when asked to scoot over so that Felix could get down he refused until his parent coaxed him down. Only then was Felix able to go down the slide, this was all in the span of 10 minutes. Now when Felix got off the slide I figured this is the end of it so went back to my conversation with JJ's cousin who's in from out of town so I got out of there and back to our table.
A few minutes go by and Felix is now trying to get off the jungle gym altogether but this little boy is once again in his way and won't move. At this point Felix is starting to get frustrated and is trying to force his way past the kid who is pushing him back. So seeing Felix's distress I proceed to get back in this jungle gym and ask the kid nicely but firmly if he can move so that my son can get out and we can go home. The kid looked at me and said "No!", so I asked him again and after his guardian cajoled him in to moving then and only then was Felix able to get down. As he was passing by the little boy spit on Felix!
He literary spit on him!
Now this is where as an adult and as a Mom I put my big girl pants on and tried not to slap the shit out of that kid and just looked at him and told him that he wasn't nice and that he should apologize. Again the kid said something in the negative and I asked him if he would want someone to spit on him and his answer scared and shocked me! He said "Yes! I wouldn't mind!" and I just looked at him and asked him to say sorry to Felix and at this point he just stared blankly at me and said "Sorry!" at which point I asked him to apologize to my son and not to me which he did.
So I grabbed Felix got his shoes on and off we went but not before I overheard the lady who was the kid's guardian say to the kid's Dad that I had yelled at his son... She said that in Spanish because she assumed that because I am so white that I had no idea what she had said...
At this point I chose to walk away because I was liable to yell and possibly hit the lady. Now I ask you this what would you have done? How would you have handled this situation?
Today we went to the McDonald's across the street from us and while we were there he played in the play area.
Felix had a blast when he was there and while he wasn't always visible because he laughs really loudly I knew he was ok.
Now this one child came along who had to be 3 or 4 years old who wouldn't let Felix get down from the slide, I had no idea that that was going on as this was all the way at the top of the thing. So when Felix started yelling "Stop it!" several times to no avail and then wailing "Mommy!" I knew I had to get up there and figure out what was wrong. That little boy wouldn't let Felix down and when asked to scoot over so that Felix could get down he refused until his parent coaxed him down. Only then was Felix able to go down the slide, this was all in the span of 10 minutes. Now when Felix got off the slide I figured this is the end of it so went back to my conversation with JJ's cousin who's in from out of town so I got out of there and back to our table.
A few minutes go by and Felix is now trying to get off the jungle gym altogether but this little boy is once again in his way and won't move. At this point Felix is starting to get frustrated and is trying to force his way past the kid who is pushing him back. So seeing Felix's distress I proceed to get back in this jungle gym and ask the kid nicely but firmly if he can move so that my son can get out and we can go home. The kid looked at me and said "No!", so I asked him again and after his guardian cajoled him in to moving then and only then was Felix able to get down. As he was passing by the little boy spit on Felix!
He literary spit on him!
Now this is where as an adult and as a Mom I put my big girl pants on and tried not to slap the shit out of that kid and just looked at him and told him that he wasn't nice and that he should apologize. Again the kid said something in the negative and I asked him if he would want someone to spit on him and his answer scared and shocked me! He said "Yes! I wouldn't mind!" and I just looked at him and asked him to say sorry to Felix and at this point he just stared blankly at me and said "Sorry!" at which point I asked him to apologize to my son and not to me which he did.
So I grabbed Felix got his shoes on and off we went but not before I overheard the lady who was the kid's guardian say to the kid's Dad that I had yelled at his son... She said that in Spanish because she assumed that because I am so white that I had no idea what she had said...
At this point I chose to walk away because I was liable to yell and possibly hit the lady. Now I ask you this what would you have done? How would you have handled this situation?
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